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"I believe psychotherapy is a private conversation in which a transformation takes place. It's that simple."

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APPLE BLOSSOM HOLISTIC THERAPY PLLC

Traditional and innovative psychotherapy for anxiety, depression, relationship issues, grief, and trauma.

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    Life, Duality, and Bipolar

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    When we are alive on this planet, we experience duality--that is, contrast, opposites. Perhaps the most pervasive sense of duality for all of us occurs as newborns, when our primal sense of omniscience (we think we are everything) is forever altered as we realize we are separate from everything. But we have no sense of "self", as we have no words at that early stage. Therefore we experience a profound feeling of emptiness, "nothingness". Except, our survival instinct tells us we must fight to exist. This essential, inherent struggle sets us up for our human issue with control versus no-control. In fact, in this way, to be human is to have a bipolar reference to life. Our primal struggle with wishing to be everything, while fighting off being nothing stays with us in our unconscious. It's at the root of all our personal drama, and even the drama so many of us love to read in stories and watch in movies. When someone is diagnosed as having a bipolar disorder, it means the natural drama-struggle between everything and nothing has become dis-regulated, ie the ego has lost control of it so it has taken over influencing our functioning mind. In many cases, medication is necessary to help regulate the moods. But in some cases, just hearing this story, and using mindfulness in finding ways to conceptualize one's self as a "somebody" between the poles, can give a tremendous boost in finding relief from "disorder".

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